YAY!!!!

i just ordered a BUNCH of supplies for my studio!! i got some extra money out of my taxes (i paid half of the LP to heat our house this winter and that took up 350 dollars!!!) so i talked to john and he said it would be cool if i spent money on myself (bc i still need to give him money to fix up my car!!). he was all, "you just let ME worry about your car. go ahead and order your paint stuff". what an AWESOME guy!!! we dont share money, i just give him what i can for bills and whatnot and he doesnt mind. he knows i dont take advantage of him and i dont spend my money on worthless shit like cloths and whatever. 

this is how i think a relationship should work. your money is yours, mine is mine. and he make WAY more money than me, and he understands that. so when im tight, he helps me out. in return, i be sure to be a good "housewife" for him and do his laundry, cook his meals, run his errands, etc. its just like an exchange of services, really. we support eachother.

i think ONE OF the main reasons why marraiges fail and get in to big trouble is because there is a lack of understanding in the way the relationship is best handled. when people get married, they automatically assume they must share a bank account. BIG mistake!! men and women usually have a hard time agreeing on what is appropriate to spend a lot of money on and so there is scwabling about, "you spent this much on WHAT?!".  

women are ALWAYS going to make less money than men. its just a fact of life. both men and women just need to accept that and work with it. we do. and it works for us.